slowmindConflict Style Quiz
10 statements · about 2 minutes · free, no sign-up
Ask people how they handle a disagreement and most say they listen, stay calm and look for something fair. What they actually do when it heats up is often different. This short quiz looks at five ways of handling a disagreement and shows the one you reach for first.
Ten statements, five styles
Think of real disagreements with partners, friends, family and colleagues. Rate how true each statement is for you, with your first instinct. If a situation does not fit your life, picture the closest one.
Your answers are not saved or sent anywhere. Our analytics only records that the quiz was started and finished, and which style came out on top.
Statement 1 of 10
Your result
Your five scores
Everyone uses all five styles. Each is scored on its own, from 0 to 100, so several can be high at once and the five do not add up to 100. Ten statements give a first look, not the full picture, and this is a tool for reflection, not a diagnosis.
The full test, with a reading written for you
This quiz used 10 of the 25 statements in the full Conflict Style test. In the SlowMind app, the full test comes with a personal reading written from your own answers, insight cards to keep and a short audio course picked for your result.
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How the quiz works
The ten statements come from the 25 in the app's Conflict Style test: two for each style, spread across partners, friends, family and work. Two are phrased the other way round, so agreeing with them lowers that style's score.
Each style gets a score from 0 to 100. Your two answers for that style are added up and placed between the lowest and the highest total possible. The style with the highest score is your default, and if two styles tie, you have a shared default. The app scores the full test the same way, with five statements per style.
The five conflict styles
- Collaborating. Working it through together until both people get what matters to them.
- Competing. Standing your ground and pushing for your view.
- Compromising. Meeting in the middle and trading so everyone can move on.
- Avoiding. Stepping back, changing the subject, waiting for it to pass.
- Accommodating. Giving way to keep the peace or protect the relationship.
No style is better than another; each one fits some moments and gets in the way in others. The five follow the well-known model described by Kenneth Thomas and Ralph Kilmann in the 1970s. This quiz is our own, written for everyday relationships, and it is not their official assessment. For how styles collide, and why your mix matters more than your label, read the full Conflict Style guide.
A snapshot, not a verdict
This quiz is a short tool for reflection. It is not a clinical or validated test. A conflict style is a habit, not a sentence: most people disagree differently at work than at home, and differently when tired than when rested. If a relationship feels frightening or unsafe, that is not a question of style, and talking to someone qualified is the right next step.