slowmindApology Language Quiz
10 statements · about 2 minutes · free, no sign-up
Some apologies settle you in one sentence. Others are clearly sincere and still leave you waiting. This short quiz looks at the five parts an apology can hold and shows which ones decide whether a sorry feels real to you.
Ten statements, five parts
Think of real apologies you have received, from partners, friends, family and colleagues. Rate each statement with your first instinct. If a situation does not fit your life, picture the closest one.
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Each part is scored on its own, from 0 to 100, so the five do not add up to 100. Ten statements give a first look, not the full picture, and this is a tool for reflection, not a diagnosis.
The full test, with a reading written for you
This quiz used 10 of the 25 statements in the full Apology Language test. In the SlowMind app, the full test comes with a personal reading written from your own answers, insight cards to keep and a short audio course picked for your result.
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How the quiz works
The ten statements come from the 25 in the app's Apology Language test: two for each part, spread across partners, friends, family and work. Two are phrased the other way round, so agreeing with them lowers that part's score.
Each part gets a score from 0 to 100. Your two answers for that part are added up and placed between the lowest and the highest total possible. The part with the highest score is your top part, and if two parts tie, both lead. The app scores the full test the same way, with five statements per part.
The five parts of an apology
- Expressing regret. Hearing that the other person truly feels bad, and that they can see what it did to you. "I hate that I hurt you."
- Accepting responsibility. Owning it plainly, with no excuses and no "but". "That was my fault."
- Making it right. Doing something to repair the damage or make up for it. "Let me fix this."
- Committing to change. A believable plan to do it differently next time, followed by weeks that match the words. "Here is what I will do differently."
- Asking for forgiveness. Being asked, and handed the choice, rather than being told it is over. "Can you forgive me?"
None of these is the correct way to apologise. Needing to hear regret is not too soft, and needing a plan is not cold. For where the idea comes from, and why your own apologies sometimes miss the people you love, read the full Apology Language guide.
A snapshot, not a verdict
This quiz is a short tool for reflection. It is not a clinical or validated test, and it says nothing fixed about your character. The idea of apology languages was popularised by Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas in The Five Languages of Apology; SlowMind is not affiliated with the book or its authors, and these statements are our own. Knowing what you need never means you owe anyone forgiveness.